I am really beginning to enjoy the winter guard season again. This year started out really good, a great set of kids and a wonderful show. However, somewhere down the line it got a little out of hand, a little...aggressive - kids vs. staff. They weren't behaving the way we wanted them to, so we screamed a lot and lectured them even more. Every time that happened...and we yelled at them to improve their attitude...they got worse and worse.
So our director, who has always been a particularly clever person, had the insight to completely change the attitude of the staff. We have made strides to be positive and patient and to (in his words) "not want it more than the kids do".
the kids' attitudes changed too. They are behaving closer to what we hoped for than I have ever seen before. Practices have been delightful and everyone is in a better mood. Even this past weekend, when we all had to be at practice at 6:00 am on Saturday, everyone was tired, but in a good mood (unheard of!). We have all shifted from trying to achieve perfection at all costs, to having a fun and doing the best we can. That might sound like a no-brainer, but when you are in the middle of it, it is not so easy to see. Even with all the talent these kids have, are we going to come close to winning this year..?...No. Are we going to have fun and enjoy each other's company..?..that is already happening.
I think it is fortunate that our director took a moment to see it from the kids' perspective and weigh what was more important - for everyone. It is a lesson that I hope I can remember years from now if my daughter and I are at odds. Stop and take a look from the other point of view. Sometimes its o.k. to ease up and see the situation for what it really is. Not only is is wise to choose your battles, but also the way in which you fight them. It may turn out in the end to be the only way anyone is going to win.



